Conflict is hard for many people to deal with. \u00a0I’ve realized that the closer you get to people, the more inevitable it is. \u00a0Also, due to our personalities, childhood, parents, and experiences, it becomes very hard to deal with in constructive ways.<\/p>\n
Jill works in special education, and she does this all day. \u00a0That is, she helps people resolve their conflicts. \u00a0It’s really valued at the school she works at. \u00a0She’s more of an expert at it than most people.<\/p>\n
I’m pretty bad at doing this, but this week was quite a lesson in it. \u00a0We spent around four hours at a restaurant talking things out with our small group leaders. \u00a0I was exhausted by the end (not from yelling or anything, I just get that way after talking with anyone for that long). \u00a0Things are better for the time spent hashing things out. \u00a0Even better, we’re still friends with the couple, which is very valuable to us.<\/p>\n
Also, Jill and I went to a marriage counseling session tonight with a nice older guy who’s a pastor as well. \u00a0Jill and I are doing fine generally, but as she has pointed out it’s good to smooth out bumps as they come along. \u00a0Things like… resolving conflict \ud83d\ude42 \u00a0Being willing to do this took a lot of guts for me as talking about shortcomings or faults is tough. \u00a0Fortunately the pastor was very encouraging and said we seem like a very healthy couple etc etc.<\/p>\n
All this talk of feelings and faults makes me tired, and sometimes discouraged. Fortunately God has kept his promise that nothing he puts in front of me is too difficult to handle. \u00a0Whatever doesn’t kill me will hopefully cause me to be stronger and improve in some small area. \u00a0God is in the business of making me more like him, however hard a process that is (and believe me it is hard sometimes).<\/p>\n
One of my quotes in my database that I love is from a song called “Love”:<\/p>\n
The Harvester is near
\nHis blade is on your skin
\nTo plant a new beginning
\nWell then let the cut begin
\nLet the cut begin\u00a0<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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